tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794557113999566160.post6025261832501437731..comments2023-07-18T04:34:56.224-04:00Comments on Premonitions of an Afterthought: Like a Fine Wine?Sunshine Dreamerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01772576173095036204noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794557113999566160.post-22146974750846726512011-03-16T11:45:06.217-04:002011-03-16T11:45:06.217-04:00Of course, how about this option:
If a guy is WO...Of course, how about this option: <br /><br />If a guy is WORKING. Then, having the money thing taken care of, he no longer views dates in terms of money, meaning his main focus is personality, rather than wallet. Plus, having gone out into the world, he will want a girl without the narrow confines of youth, so he will seek someone more . . . shall we say, out her teens. <br /><br />No matter what the male's pursuit is in life, whenever a guy says he wants a 19 year old to "mold into his ways" is an idiot. 19 does not equal brainless or automatically subservient. No worries; any guy who marries a 19 year old for that, the joke's on him. <br /><br />Rabbi Yisroel Reisman says specifically that spouses are not supposed to match perfectly. Hoe else can they challenge each other to improve? A spouse is not a clone. I read this great article by Rabbi Shafier of the Shmuz: <br /><br />http://kosherdelight.com/KDMag/KDMag_Jan_14_2011_Rabbi_Shafier_Playing_Shadchan.shtml<br /><br />Plus, I'm sure there are guys who would be happy to go home for Mommy's Shabbos cooking. Men can whine, too.Bookwormnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794557113999566160.post-83454175025902080842011-03-14T20:16:18.953-04:002011-03-14T20:16:18.953-04:00and thank you for the warm welcome! :-) I hope to ...and thank you for the warm welcome! :-) I hope to stick around too!Sunshine Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01772576173095036204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794557113999566160.post-77778199244869864352011-03-14T20:14:48.004-04:002011-03-14T20:14:48.004-04:00I guess that's true- but there are pros and co...I guess that's true- but there are pros and cons to both younger an older girls. Older girls are more set in their ways on the one hand- but they are generally more mature. Younger girls meld more easily with their new partner but he'll most likely have to contend with a unique immaturity only a 19 year old newlywed girl possesses. I know sweet sweet kindhearted girls who do indeed spend much of their time deciding what jewelry their husbands should buy them next, hinting that they want new shaitels (when they've only been married a few months!) and whining that they can't spend every shabbos with their mommies. Granted- maturity is a function of personality- there are more mature 19 year ols and some less mature 25 year olds- but you'd be hard pressed to find me a newlywed 25 year old woman whining to go home to her mommy for shabbos.<br />No?Sunshine Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01772576173095036204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794557113999566160.post-25647661264629036642011-03-14T16:14:27.327-04:002011-03-14T16:14:27.327-04:00your talking to a guy who won't date girls so ...your talking to a guy who won't date girls so young, but the main appeal for a guy to date younger girls is that the younger girls are less set in their ways, so easier to build a relationship with. a girl who already figured themselves out are harder to match compatibility because they know what they want, they have opinions and therefore can challenge the guy. (sorta like the infamous 'yeshiva guy tells a vort' video)<br /><br />btw welcome to o'blogosphere. i hope we will see you writing long-termharry-er than them allhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07957506180776134351noreply@blogger.com